The project was meant to revive Alana's prior academic project called Alana's Involuntary Celibacy Project. However, Love Not Anger showed no signs of serious academic research, and the community only posted about once per two weeks. Alana spoke about possibly using the LoveNotAnger project to kickstart a book she thought about writing.
The LoveNotAnger mailing list seems to have shut down. It was used infrequently, only about once a month at most near the end of its life.
During May 2020, Alana wrote a blog post declaring LoveNotAnger inactive. She explained she arrived at this decision after getting a job she found more personally fulfilling.